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Commitment fetish

There is a widely spread misconception that Western (or westernized) men are scared of commitment, are not keen to get married and have trouble communicating their emotions. From my experience it´s quite the other way round. I have been literally stalked by marriage / committed relationship applicants since I can remember. I see men getting emotional and even crying all the time. Sometimes it really makes me wonder. What am I doing to them?

The thing is, that I’m not even trying. Sure, I do tease them but I don’t really play games, give them hope etc. In fact I am known to brutally honest and usually just try to kill it right there at the start. Does it ever work? Totally not. The more I try to put them off, the more they come crawling under my feet. Some even get so obsessed that they start showing my pictures to their colleagues and friends and refer about me as their “wife”. Obviously, the whole thing is very frustrating for them and sometimes for me as well but they all have a blast while serving me. From the psychological point of view, it is extremely fascinating – the jealousy, the possessivness, the desperation, the competitiveness, the devotion, the hurt feelings and the theatricality.

You may wonder – how can I possibly put up with it? It may be hard sometimes but the reason is that the drama is very generously compensated by the best servitude any dominant woman can ever hope for. Holidays, spa visits, fine dining, shopping, fun in and outside of dungeons, personal and intimate servitude in case of mutual attraction combined with a degree of emotional fulfillment when there is genuine connection. This connection may only happen when the man submits to me fully, without conditions and compromises and proves himself 100% loyal. That means he should not be in any other relationship while serving me. If he is, I may still allow him to serve me but he would not be taken as seriously as someone without a girlfriend or a wife.

The most mind-blowing aspect of the D/s relationships is, that as an attractive dominant woman you are totally not taken for granted by your submissive fans. For some of them it may be the only chance they will ever get to be real slaves to a beautiful Goddess. They know it and are usually grateful and appreciative. But of course when it comes to feelings, one has to tread carefully. When things get sour, it is best to get out (or let him get out) and hope the sub will just move on with his life. Some accept the end of our arrangement gracefully, others less so. One way or the other, it is great to know I have made a real difference to someone’s life even if the major fantasy – to get married to me – will remain unfulfilled for most.